You’ve done it. You’ve arrived my friend- and I am so happy to welcome you here to this brand new section of the 30 Something Bible.
This here, is your LOVE NOTES.
A new, weekly audio feature where we can connect in a little bit of a deeper way, so that we can help you create a life that is centered around you. A life where you can effortlessly take care of yourself, where you love yourself deeply, and where everything you do is self-FULL (not selfish).
Why Love Notes?
Let’s be honest. If there’s one thing that we struggle with collectively as women (and human beings), it’s learning to put ourselves first. We’re often quick to deprioritize our own needs, swallow our desires, and bite our tongues out of fear of what people might think about us.
We show up as we’ve been told to. Polite. Quiet. Non-confrontational.
We think we’re doing the right thing by not rocking the boat and stifling our emotions. But in the long-term? We’ve literally rewired our brain and body with the belief that it is unsafe to be us. That we’re not worthy of what we want. That our needs don’t matter. And that we are required to sacrifice ourselves for the good of everyone else.
Now I don’t know about you… but I’ve lived my entire life operating like this, and it’s gotten me absolutely nowhere. I’ve held onto the relationships that were draining me a little too long, I’ve said yes to things that I didn’t want to do, I’ve poured into the cups of others when my own was depleted, and I’ve turned my back on my own desires out of a need to please others.
I’ve given. I’ve sacrificed. I’ve bent over backwards more times than I can count.
And you know what? Each and every time, I was left with a sour taste in my mouth, and a feeling of deep disappointment for the way I treated myself. I never ‘got ahead’ in any area of my life, and I certainly never gained more love, worth or respect from anyone in my life.
In fact, the more that I became ‘self-less’… the less of myself actually existed.
So what I essentially realized a couple of years ago (and what I’ve been making a priority in my life for the last year now), is that taking care of myself and becoming obsessed with myself and my life is not selfish.
It’s actually self-FULL. Because when my life is full, and when I am my most happy, my most grounded, my most centred- the more it ripples outward, and everything in my life is positively impacted as a result.
Let me say that again.
The more I focus on ‘me’, the more energy I have to pour into every area of my life.
Which means, right before my eyes, my relationships, my health, my marriage, my finances, and my business, are all rapidly improving. It all grows when I do.
And if this is possible for me… well, it means it’s possible for you too.
So, the Love Notes?
They have been designed with you in mind. Because I believe that one of the hardest parts of navigating your 30’s, is reprogramming what you’ve been taught about yourself and your existence in this world-
and I believe that the single-most beneficial thing that I can offer you, is teaching you how to love yourself more through my own realizations and experiences.
Here’s What To Expect:
Moving forward, I’ll be dropping into your inbox every Sunday with your weekly Love Note. This will include a bingeable audio recording that is 10 minutes in length or less, so that you can easily listen to these no matter what you find yourself doing.
The goal is to help you create a life that is centered around ‘you’, and our weekly topics will vary depending on what I’m noticing come up most frequently in the physical or online world, my own personal insights or reflections, or perhaps even what you’ve personally requested for me to include.
My desire is to help you begin to make changes in your life that help you deepen your connection to yourself, create more presence and slowness, bring pleasure and joy into every moment of every day- and of course, help you fall head-over-heels in love with every single part of yourself.
Finally, at the end of each audio recording, I will be including a reflection piece or action step for you to take forward with you into your week so that you can actually begin to see results in your own life.
This might be a journal prompt for you to answer on your own or in the comments below, a question for you to ask someone in your life, or an actual task for you to complete- like saying no to something or someone, putting in a boundary, or even buying yourself a small gift, like a fancy cup of coffee or a single flower.
The point is for you to take small (and relatively cost-free) steps towards romanticizing your life and becoming obsessed with yourself in all the best ways.
Because the truth is that no matter what your life looks like right now, you can get the results that you desire without needing to spend a lot of money or invest a lot of time.
You’re worthy of a self-full life, and you can get there a lot easier than you think.
So let’s go ahead and create some magic, shall we?
Reflection Time.
I’d love for you to take a moment to observe (without judgement or shame) where you find yourself right now in your life. What do your days currently look like?
Does your life feel full, centered around you, your desires, and your needs?
Do you feel worthy? Satisfied? Happy?
Is your life focused on pleasure, slowness, presence?
Are you upholding boundaries, saying no, letting go of anyone or anything that does not serve you?
This reflection is meant to be a general assessment of where you find yourself right now in this moment- and perhaps, where some changes might need to be made.
Dropping below into the comments, share with us and everyone else, what feels the most important for you in this area at this time? What would you like to talk about, to focus on, or to make changes around for the weeks or months ahead?
I’ll be using your feedback or suggestions to help cultivate the content for these Love Notes moving forward, so I encourage you to share deeply, honestly and fully.
Together we can create some really beautiful changes- and who knows? Maybe, just maybe, we can inspire some other women to take care of themselves too.
I’ll catch you in the next one,
Brianne xx
